At a base level, I do not WANT to feel hate. So, why do I? What's the process?
Someone kills a cat, MY got damn cat! I feel hate. They gave me a REASON to hate. They have created a space where my emotions can go, and I go. Well, I don't want to go. I see now that by going, following the path THEY have created, they are in the lead. Aint nobody gonna lead me. Nobody. I use that umph of realization someone is guiding me to return to guiding myself. I do not want to hate.
I see hate is heavy and brings me down. I see hate can be a providing fire. I see there are plenty of other providing fires that align more with what I want to feel. I do not want to hate.
You killed my cat. You created a reason and space for hate. You are completely alone in that. I will guide myself. I know who I am, I do not feel hate. I win, you lose.
Why do I gather instead of give?
We all have a knowing. A knowing that currently, in society, having more correlates to you being more. We all sit with that, gather, and then wonder why it aint working. Your defining meters are off.
Who are you more to? Could ya name 'em? Does your mother REALLY think you're a better person because of how much you've gathered? You know the truth. Society does not.
We, as a species, have trouble defining that truth inside of us. The world we built tells us we're wrong everytime... but I promise we are not. Does having $100, or giving $100 feel better? Try it. You'll know.
Also, I learned a long time ago I will do better at any given task, assignment, goal with another brain contributing to the task, assignment, goal. We are literally better off working together at every single scale.
Giving also raises your chances of getting. Good for the stats.